I am 14 posts (well, I guess 13, now) from the big TEN THOUSAND.
I really wish I had something fantastic in my life to post about for it, but I’m not in the best of spaces for that, sadly. It’ll probably be a quote. Or a #things I’ve said. Or a GIF. Or, god forbid, a reblog.
There is one exciting thing coming up in my life, but I can’t hold myself to 12 posts for over a month. I’m not that strong.
If anyone has any ideas for something for me to do or talk about for this milestone, I am certainly open to suggestions. Thoughts?
Now I’ll be bold
As well as strong
And use my head alongside my heart
So tame my flesh
And fix my eyes
A tethered mind freed from the lies.
And I’ll kneel down,
Wait for now
I’ll kneel down,
Know my ground.
Raise my hands
Paint my spirit gold
And bow my head
Keep my heart slow.
What’s a word for the guilt one feels for wanting more from life than one has when one has more than many?
I hated knowing what I wanted and knowing what was right and knowing they weren’t the same thing.
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Even if it’s not your fault, it’s your responsibility.
Confirmation Bias and Hate and News
I am not old enough to know if news was ever truthful.
All I know is that these days, it is all about telling a subset of people what they already think.
This group is bad. Cities are dangerous. Science is running around unchecked, possibly endangering you.
I remember reading an academic paper a few years ago from a think-tank that studies national crime statistics and trends. According to them, crime rates in the US have been dropping steadily since 1992, yet coverage of crime on the news and attention spent on cracking down on crime in government has only been increasing.
Imagine that. You might actually be safer now than you would have been twenty years ago. Well, that depends, of course. In fact, people of colour, especially in less affluent urban areas, experience the highest rates of victimization than any other. So, even if the rate at which crime is covered on the news actually reflected a real descent into anarchy, it is still getting it wrong. Coverage of victims of crime in the news are often white, typically affluent.
A seriously rudimentary Google search for references you might be interested in:
I digress. We were talking about Al Jazeera’s association with the ruling family of Qatar, and possible links to terrorist organizations.
Let’s assume, for argument’s sake, that news outlet A has connections to groups that might also have connections to hate groups in another part of the world. Let us further assume that news outlet A is also considered the voice of many moderate people who happen to be in the same ethnic group as those who promote hate.
Like in many situations, it isn’t comfortable to participate in any dialog with someone knowing that someone more unsavoury might be speaking in another ear.
It sure would make me feel less confused to stick my fingers in my ear and scream “lalala” at the top of my lungs. Believe me that I often want to. But I don’t. I try to hear what everyone is saying in case I’m not addressing the right things. Yes, I even pay attention to FOX.
If there’s anything I’ve learned in my personal life and seen on the international stage, it is that there are two ways to burn bridges and alienate people who might one day be your friend:
- Stop listening
- Stop being willing to talk
I know that sometimes violence happens, and I don’t believe that one should always stoically refrain from meeting it in kind. However, it is only when communication completely breaks down that I start to get really scared.
I don’t like liars. I don’t like media companies. But until both change, I have to keep listening in case there is somebody on the proverbial “other side” I am being warned about trying to tell me something.
I’m fairly confident that if you look into the ownership or practices of any major news outlet, you are going to find all sorts of awful people.
The trick to news is to, as much as is humanly possible, read everything voraciously. Nobody presents unbiased coverage of all sides of any story. In fact, you may not even be able to get all sides of a story if you read everything.
I believe that it is worth my time to listen to everyone. People I don’t like, people that don’t like me, people I agree with and people I don’t. Because everyone spins. Everyone withholds. Everyone presents their own truth.
So, maybe it’s best not to limit yourself to only one version of the truth. Maybe it is useful to listen to everyone and try to piece it together for yourself.
You are very welcome to have a different perspective.
I think I’m hungry
I opened up three tabs in my browser, as I am wont to do, with the intention of going to my email, Tumblr and Al Jazeera America.
I had typed seamless.com into two of the tabs before I realized what I was doing.